Anger: You Have a Right Not To Be Angry

posted Jun 10, 2012, 7:22 AM by James Stoertz   [ updated Jun 10, 2012, 7:24 AM ]

Solly brought his anger to my workshop on "Conquest of Anger.”  He worked for the marketing department of one of America's top ten corporations.  He described his job as "pushing retailers to push our product."  With heated speech and gestures, he told us that he knew anger was unhealthy.  "How many times have I heard that!  But still, life goes on.  A month ago, my boss promoted a young woman to a spot senior to mine.  The woman has half my experience.  Now she earns twice my salary.  When that happened, I blew up, and I've been steaming since.  Yes, anger may be bad, it’s true, but in this case I have a right to be angry!  Do you agree?"

Darshani:  A young woman in a town where I used to live had a heated fight with her husband one morning before he left for work.  They exchanged violent words.  He slammed the door and walked out, and she cursed him out loud for an hour.  In that mood of extreme rage, she breast-fed her three-month-old baby.  A few hours later, the baby turned blue.  By evening the baby was dead.  In a state of anger, injurious toxins are secreted by the glands and injected into the bloodstream.  Your bloodstream, not your boss’s.  When you are angry your white blood cell count plummets.  That lower count can deal the death blow to your immune system.  Your immune systems, not his.   Anger shortens your life, nobody else's.  Anger is suicide, not homicide.  Now do you see why you have a right not to be angry?